This is something that I’ve been noticing for a few years now and I fully agree with the woman who unpacks the whole thing. It just seems as if women are being “put in their place “from all sides and in many more countries than feels healthy. The sad thing is that it’s coming from women too.
I’m sick and tired of hearing about how feminism is this big evil thing, when all feminism really is, is the right to choose your life’s path and not forced into someone else’s idea that you should be pregnant and in the kitchen, in pearls and heels, unless that’s what YOU want.
Please go and read the lyrics for the song I am woman. And remember that when I was born 57 years ago was when we had heard it all before and had been down there on the floor and just wanted to be able to enjoy the human experience, the whole human experience. We are humans after all aren’t we? And it still took years before we could rent an apartment without a man’s signature, or get a credit card in our name, and so on. Not to mention the right to our own bodily autonomy. Freedom is the ability to choose That’s something I learned the hard way just over 7 years ago. Think about all of the things that you are now ‘allowed ‘to do that you weren’t allowed to do in 1965 and ask yourself what you really want for your life to look like.
It’s important to remember to respect each other’s choices, ladies. If you want the Donna Reed existence I will applaud you and if you want to be Doctor Donna Reed I will clap just as hard because it’s what YOU WANT! All I ask is that you do the same for my choices whether or not you agree with them because you’re applauding the fact that we’re allowed to choose.
Last night, Bill Maher used a portion of his hour long platform to talk about his problem with the Me Too movement. It seems that many liberal, feminist leaning men have the same issue with the movement. They all applaud loudly for women sticking up for ourselves, but the first question they need answered is, BUT HOW DO I GET WOMEN TO HAVE SEX WITH ME?
They complain that, if everything is illegal, what CAN they do?
My answer is surprisingly simple. Cut the crap and the games, try not looking at us like prey and stop seeing sex as the prize. Forget the pick up lines that rarely work. Women are over it. Instead try getting to know us and letting us get to know you. Most women need to feel like you care an iota about us before jumping into the sack. If you can’t fake that, perhaps, Mr Maher try something you’re good at like opening with a joke. Once we’re laughing we tend to be more open minded also if your sense of humor is funny to us, we feel like we want to be on your side. But most importantly, BE HONEST. Try the fucking truth for once. For example, you see an attractive woman, you walk up to her and say something like, Hi I’m Bill Maher I think your beautiful, how can I get to know you better? Or may I give you my number? If your interested in sex only, may I suggest a prostitute? I’m pretty sure that you know that that’s what they’re there for. Or perhaps a groupie, since you’re lucky enough to actually have some. Or maybe you’ll get lucky and a woman might come up to you and give you her card and say, Please call me if you’re interested in getting to know me, like I did with my husband.
I’m also calling stupidity on the women of the movement. You can’t change the rules of the game without telling men what the new rules are. If you’re a true feminist, you need to take the reigns more often and face the possibility of rejection like men have had to do for eons. After all if we really want equality, we need to start acting like it. I’m willing to bet that most liberal and feminist leaning men would be pretty flattered if those feminists started hitting on them for a change.
As for the successful men, like Trump and Cosby and Weinstein and Ailes and O’Reilly and Franken and Ansari and Mr CK, their behavior won’t change unless they’re held accountable and that’s why the movement exists in the first place. And yes I am aware that these men should not be on the same list as far as degree of crime, the thought is the same, that sex is the prize and they need to either trick a woman into giving it to them, or in the case of the first 3 men on the list, take it.
WOMEN DON’T WANT TO BE ON YOUR TROPHY WALL!
I’m starting to think I need to write a book for women called the do it yourself guide to romance. Yes, it takes guts, but it’s so worth it. I’ve found men appreciate honesty as much, if not more than we do.
I think many men would be surprised by the amount of women that are interested in them.
Thanks to Bill Maher for giving me the angle I needed to write my feelings about this tipping point moment in history, herstory? I’m coining a new word … HUSTORY. human story get it? Maybe if we stopped compartmentalizing by sex it would be easier. But we would have to let go of the word feminist, which I’m betting will be hard fought. But true equality won’t happen until we all make the shift, ladies. All keeping it does is deepen the divide by mere exclusion.