I’m a feminist who understands 

*Feminist – a person who supports women having equal political, economic and social equality.

 That being said, here’s what it doesn’t mean.

It doesn’t mean that I hate men. On the contrary, I married 4 of them and only hate 2 of my exes. That’s not fair, I don’t hate them, but I do dislike them. 

It doesn’t mean that I think men don’t have issues.  Men get beaten and raped and abused.

It doesn’t mean that I think all women are not capable of heinous acts.  Women are just as capable of beating, raping and abusing.  Feminist Andrea Dworkin let women off the hook when she said, men target women for not being men, but men don’t only target women. men also beat the shit out of each other. men rape each other. men kill each other. men treat each other like absolute shit. virtually all of the violence that occurs on this planet is committed by males, whether it’s committed against females or against other males. men tell us every day, in no uncertain terms, that they believe “equality” means “violence.” equality with these barbarians? I think not. 

I don’t think this is entirely true, or fair. 

Men definitely have it tough, what with being blamed for all the violence in the world. While men do commit the majority of the violent acts, women are guilty of violence towards each other, their partners, their parents, their children and pets. Think about the term domestic abuse. What comes to mind is likely this scenario 

Which is unfair because, often it means this scenario.   

Yes, ladies, we are violent too and we need to take responsibility for it.  No matter the gender, people are capable of shitty things. 

5 thoughts on “I’m a feminist who understands 

  1. An admirably realistic post! Whenever I’m told that women are seldom abusive, I recall that just about every close female friend I’ve spoken with about it vividly recalls what it was like to be psychologically, verbally, and emotionally abused by other girls in middle school and high school. I agree, however, that men in general are more prone to abusing people than women. It’s just that, as you point out, neither sex is off the hook here.

  2. I was around when the femenist movement first started (yes, I’m old 😊) & from the beginning it split​ into 2 direction. One went sort of the professional way, equal pay for equal work, etc. The other somewhat louder, somewhat less civil & more aggressive. After a while it lost its oomph, other trends pushed it to the background. I don’t know if I was asleep at the wheel of life or busy raising my own girls but by the time they reached the upper teenage yrs I was in for a shock. Being more surrounded by young females due to some activities of my own daughter’s, a strange world opened up before my eyes & ears. The language of some of these young women was gutter talk that made a sailor blush and we were a military family so I was used to some crass words among the soldiers. I don’t mean to generalize this action of the young females, of course it wasn’t all young women but nevertheless I noticed how it wasn’t isolated anymore either. It seemed, not alone did this new generation of females took equality to a new platform they also dragged along the typically male misbehaviour & that picture wasn’t pretty. And I don’t even want to get into their clothing or lack of to the point where school started dress codes. My daughter’s kept their dignity but they have a little more problems now convincing their daughters to have more pride in their femininity. And I believe that this extreme side of femaleness that emerged had also, in turn, created a certain hostile reaction to all females. And yes, your article is so correct on all aspects but it’s not always practiced fairly. Women should stand with women, they say, no matter what; if you don’t you’re the enemy. On the male side it’s the same. One bad experience with a woman makes “them all the same” & visa versa. In this hotbed of politics at the present time how can we change that and can we?

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